We share joint custody of Warren. I am reporting to you plainly that I do not agree to Warren leaving the established two-hour driving radius to Virginia as you have planned. If you choose to go to Virginia for a reported emergency surgery this is your prerogative. Fortunately we have a wonderful alternative available in Ben and Mary Ellen, and Warren will not have to be present while Jason undergoes an emergency surgery. Certainly you will want to be available to Jason and not touring military sites.
Warren has already been taken out of school for what you have considered educational enhancement opportunities. Warren needs to remain in school and maintain a consistent schedule.
This driving schedule is not appropriate for Warren.
The reemergence of your claim of molestation is telling. How quickly you will move to destroy people. Have you lost all sense of healthy shame?
You didn't respond to my request to honour the Skype breathalyzer testing ordered by the court. Will you agree to honour my request? I am in no way obfuscating here. I believe fully that alcohol is a real issue in your relationship to Jason. You are actually arguing that specialized-even highly specialized-military personnel are immune from alcohol dependency? This would defy the available research, and I would have thought you would be well aware of this reality as a public health professional. Public health professionals too struggle with alcohol dependency. The suggestion that you can't find high performing people and alcoholism together is absurd.
You and Jason are free to drink yourselves into oblivion, but not with my son present. Warren needs to have the security of a home free of a dependent parent. Certainly you know children will mold behavior around this dynamic to protect a sense of stability. The conspiratorial atmosphere in your home is unnerving. The sudden announcement of this trip is unnerving.
You do agree, I hope, that it was clearly established in the court proceedings that you suffer from alcohol dependency.
I was surprised by what you wrote about grades and attendance. Apart from the myriad research that links school attendance with academic performance, I am also interested in the school functioning as a stabilizing force in Warren's life. Daily routine, daily attendance.
Warren needs to remain with Ben and Mary Ellen. Please provide the pickup details to me so I may then communicate them to Ben and Mary Ellen. I will make sure they have arranged for Warren. If you take Warrren out of our established two-hour radius I consider you to be in violation of our agreement, and at that point I am doubly concerned from a safety/security perspective. I would then act accordingly.