Sunday, March 3, 2013
Life on the Other Side: The Creepers
Jason was also married to a sociopath. She has used his children against him without regard for their mental, physical or emotional well-being. She had nothing other than contempt for him while married and to this day lives to control and destroy him. She also lies as if it’s breathing. I could devote an entire book describing her and what she’s done. Jason helped me write “You Might Be Married to a Sociopath If....” because our sociopaths said and did so many things exactly alike, as if they were referencing the same play book. It’s both good and bad that we were both married to nearly the same individual. It’s good because we, without hesitation, believe one another and take any communication from the other party very seriously. He helps me respond with my situation and I his. It’s bad because it’s double the stress for both of us. And we are rarely free from attacks from one of them.
Over Christmas, while I was with Jason (we live very far apart with him being in the military), he received an email from his x wife. It was really a five page rant/rage against me. The difference between her and Peter is where he can restrain himself sometimes she seems to have very little self-control sending at least a hundred pages of emails trying to coerce him into more communication with her. She shows a great deal of emotion and instability in her emails and is either drunk when she writes them or her psyche is diminishing. She is not very bright, though very resolute in her schemes to destroy Jason for leaving her, where Peter is a dangerously intelligent manipulator. For example, she is very direct in her parent alienation and deteriorating respect for Jason with his children, where Peter’s is more insidious and undetectable. Both end with the same results. Honestly, together they could wreak some havoc in our lives and have.
Jason and I share all communications we have with these two miserable individuals (I use miserable because they both wallow in their victimization and negativity and will tell anyone who will listen). Around November there was a statement in an email from Jason’s X that made us both think our Xs were talking, but didn’t know for sure. The Christmas break email rant included, for instance, the social services case that Peter had initiated before moving out of the country. Peter would not have known the case was closed as unsubstantiated; only the person accused is notified of the findings. So her misinformation about an ongoing case would have come from Peter. Those records are confidential, I know because part of my work involves working with that particular department. She either received that information directly from Peter or Peter could have easily “convinced” my oldest daughter to communicate with her by inciting her anger toward me making Jason the reason for the broken marriage. Regardless they are sharing information. The same things I fought in my own case are now appearing in Jason’s case. They are most definitely communicating in some way.
Neither has moved on and continue to be obsessed with relationships long gone. So when we are not stressed about continued attorney fees and anticipated histrionics from both, we have actually laughed about the two of them together.
They both, very proudly, continue to make statements in emails with information only the other would know. It is of course meant to unsettle Jason and me and, again, without regard for how that appears to the normal person…..CREEPY!!
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