I spent 20 years married to a sociopath. No matter how long I am divorced he keeps finding ways to disrupt my life. The twists, turns and distortions of reality are borderline indescribable. I know what it is like to live with and deal with a monster. Here is my story.
Friday, December 26, 2014
Feels so Good in this Fortress
Personal boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify for themselves what are reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave around him or her and how they will respond when someone steps outside those limits.
Holidays are warm and wonderful but can also make dysfunctional dynamics shine brighter and hotter.
I am thankful we have found our boundaries, really we've built a fortress. It feels so good. We have willfully removed anyone causing stress in our lives from our castle and locked it down. Sure it can be uncomfortable and upsetting; nothing compared to taking control of our lives like this.
Jo has 100% responsibility for her children; they have not been bonded to Jason since he announced he'd had enough and Jo started a war, forcing her children to bear the biggest scares. They are beyond the point of no return...Jason did everything possible and is at peace saying goodbye.
With no more Jo, Peter has no way of knowing anything. Good bye Peter.
Good bye to anyone with ill intentions.
It did get worse before it got better. Who knew Jo would wrap herself in evil and execute a plan which could only be derived from the depths of hell.
Behind the safety and security of these clearly defined stone walls my mind and soul are free again.
Warren is in the back seat of our very manly truck laying on two of our three dogs. We have to get back home so father and son can go on an overnight camping/hunting trip....The temperature is dropping..... We'll need to get some groceries before we go home....I love the way Jason is rubbing my leg right now....we keep smiling at each other....wonder what I'll do while the boys are gone....