Monday, July 16, 2018

Here I go...Book #2!

I am now on a nine month appointment at the University so that I have time for book related activities and completing the book series. I am in Alaska. Steven purchased a house nine years ago while running the cold weather training facility up here. We have rented it over the years on and off, but now we keep it for ourselves as our get-a-way. I love it up here; it is so peaceful and quiet with extraordinary views. A beautiful trail behind our house leads to the Gulf of Alaska, which acts as the perfect break for me. Steven and Junior are working a fishing charter boat during the days so I have time to write and get ready for a new class for the fall semester, then family time, staying up late and sleeping in. Life is good.

Well when we first arrived I was pretty exhausted from book activities in New York and the responses following some media exposure...so I was binge watching T.V. shows and procrastinating with the book. 

One morning when I got out of the shower (it was longer than usual so there was a lot of steam) I noticed something written on the mirror. I knew she had done this nine years ago, but I didn't realize the extent of the messages. When Steven was finally able to get Jo out of the house and off the island she had left the house with written messages to the two children on the bathroom mirrors. Steven took pictures and they are in another post on this blog. He neglected to provide me with the details of a love note written to him on the master bedroom mirror. 

After nine years-- "I'll love you forever. I'll love you for always. Forever and always you will be my all." I felt bugs crawling all over my skin. I was suddenly propelled back into remembering all that Jo had done to Steven and to me. I was completely motivated to get moving on BOOK #2!!! Thank you Jo for that push.....

THE FEMALE SOCIOPATH: An American War Hero's Greatest Threat was in his Home.

Thursday, June 21, 2018

WXXI 1370 "Connections" Radio show.


You can listen on line!!
http://wxxinews.org/post/connections-domestic-violence-survivor-sabrina-brown

Key Note Speaker at RESTORE Sexual Assault Services 45 Years of Service Conference

http://www.thedailynewsonline.com/bdn01/surviving-a-sociopath-one-womans-story-20180621&template=mbdn

Monday, December 4, 2017

Sunday, November 19, 2017

My Hero Husband (not the sociopath)

In honor of Veterans Day I’d like to share a story. My husband Steven was sent on an impossible mission—one of hundreds. As the helicopter touched down he thought of his tombstone—how it would look—him dying on the same day he was born. He was first out heading into darkness facing hundreds against him—only about a dozen behind him. He led the team through the gunfight all the while protecting them as a sniper.  All men survived. Steven was awarded the Silver Star. He will never tell you about it  without some coercion, but ask him next time you see him. It is truly a remarkable and unbelievable story.

Sunday, October 15, 2017

Talk of the Rock Radio Show in Kodiak Alaska for Domestic Violence Awareness Month

http://kmxt.org/2017/10/author-speaks-experience-domestic-violence/

You can hear the radio interview by following this link:
http://kmxt.org/2017/10/talk-rock-domestic-violence-awareness-month/



Author Speaks About Experience with Domestic Violence

Kayla Desroches/KMXT
A Kodiak resident shared her story recently as part of Domestic Violence Awareness month.
University of Kentucky epidemiologist, Sabrina Brown, who splits her time between Kodiak and Kentucky, published a book called “I Married a Sociopath.”
It covers her experiences with her ex-husband over their 20-year marriage.
She says during that relationship she worked within violence prevention, but it took her a long time to apply that same information to her own case.
“The worst part for me was – and I detail this in my book because it’s so subtle, can be so subtle – but the physiological, the gaslighting, making the victim think that they’re crazy, projecting what they’re doing, but blaming the victim. Those are all very difficult to delineate in your own mind as a victim. So, I kinda straddled both as a researcher and a victim.”
She explains how the psychological aspect can make it harder for the victim to come to terms with the nature of the relationship.
“Other victims in writing this book and blogging for five years have come to me and said ‘I wish he had hit me.’ Because then it would have proven to myself, it would have proven to others, kind of the CSI effect, where ‘Oh, now I have evidence.’”
Brown says her colleague eventually helped her reflect on her own situation.
“And I think you have to be ready to hear it too. And guess at that time I was ready to hear it. She said ‘I want to know what he offers you, what he contributes to the relationship,’ and I couldn’t think of one thing. He didn’t work, I was a human ATM machine just on a treadmill, just keeping me in chaos.”
Brown has since remarried and speaks about her experiences as a way to reach out to other people who have suffered domestic violence. She sat down with KMXT as part of this week’s Talk of the Rock.

Wednesday, June 14, 2017

Formal Book Review in the Harvard Business Review by Myron Stokes (Former Newsweek Correspondent)

LINK:

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/i-married-sociopath-dr-sabrina-brown-university-kentucky-stokes?trk=v-feed

 The Love of a US Navy SEAL Brought Her Back...                
                                                 Book Review
Frankfort, KY, June 14, 2017 - In the aftermath of absorbing the contents of this book, I was compelled to draw on my experiences as a former Newsweek investigative correspondent, which exposed me with disturbing depth and regularity to the darker side of humanity, from The Balkans to Pennsylvania. In my view, few people would have had the courage or the fortitude to talk about - let alone create a fastidiously compiled non-fiction depiction - of a life where as a little girl, Dr. Brown was subjected to continuous sexual assault by family members, but urged to speak glowingly of those abusers when questioned by authorities.  
"With Steve", Brown muses, "I was reborn at 39 years of age while simultaneously finding the love of my life. Moreover, he imposed his rigorous training as a SEAL instructor to my own discipline as a means of directly assaulting my demons, and taught me to expand my capabilities and limits of endurance through learning primitive survival skills in nature's most unforgiving locales such as Alaska and Montana. "
Recognizing she had no true protectors, Brown crafted a strategy of self-preservation that was/is astonishing in its effectiveness; especially when one recognizes few would have maintained their sanity, let alone completely revamping the architecture of her life to become a renowned University of Kentucky Associate Prof. of Epidemiology, a Counter-Terrorism lecturer, a mother, a mentor to young women and wife to a decorated US Navy SEAL.
I was privileged to spend time with Dr. Brown and her family at a remote horse ranch/retreat deep in the woods of Kentucky. A place, I might add, where one rediscovers their child-like sense of wonder. (Fireflies in the trees on a pitch black night have a way of doing that) Indeed, a perfect locale where husband Steve, seriously injured himself during an OCONUS operation, has brought veterans of multiple wars to reclaim their balance and sense of self-worth. For him, it is giving back in a long lasting way.                                 Steven Brown, Naval Special Warfare Basic Training Command     
"With Steve", Brown muses, "I was reborn at 39 years of age while simultaneously finding the love of my life. Moreover, he imposed his rigorous training as a SEAL instructor to my own discipline as a means of directly assaulting my demons, and taught me to expand my capabilities and limits of endurance through learning primitive survival skills in nature's most unforgiving locales such as Alaska and Montana. "
Steve could only smile when I remarked his first encounter with Dr. Brown must have been viewed as a Special Op...
                                                        
Publisher's note:
Dr. Sabrina Brown serves as Associate Professor in the Department of Epidemiology and the Kentucky Injury Prevention and Research Center, College of Public Health, at the University of Kentucky. Dr. Brown is the director of the Kentucky Violent Death Reporting System, which is part of the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention funded National Violent Death Reporting System. As part of the project, and together with Kentucky coroners, Dr. Brown developed the statewide Coroner Investigation Report (CIR) and web-based system (the reports’ development and distribution are detailed in the American Journal of Health Behavior). 
Given the importance of death scene information for criminal prosecution and public health prevention efforts, more efforts are needed to discover innovative approaches to help gather death scene information and forensic evidence in resource constrained settings. Building upon the CIR, Dr. Brown has a proposal under review with the National Institute of Justice to develop, pilot test, and evaluate Death Scene Investigation Mobile Technology.
The DSI-Mobile Tech is proposed to be used as a non-linear checklist guiding the investigator(s) to best practices and giving prompts based on probabilities from previous forensic investigations and NIJ guidelines. This new forensic technology will promote uniform processing of forensic evidence at death scenes efficiently among first responders and will help death scene investigators gather and record information on precipitating circumstances of deaths, using a standardized guiding format to gain greater detail from survivors and witnesses. This will thereby improve the current standard practices and help compliance with the latest NIJ guidelines and protocol for death scene investigations.
Amazon Author Page: https://www.amazon.com/Dr.-Sabrina-Brown/e/B06Y2F7889/ref=dp_byline_cont_book_1

About Myron D. Stokes:
Global HeavyLift Holdings, Inc. Managing Director, Dr. Rufus Stokes Foundation Director, Grand Prix Developmental Committee Director and eMOTION! REPORTS Publisher Myron D. Stokes is an award winning veteran automotive/aerospace industry analyst and spent several years as an industry correspondent for Newsweek, Newsweek Japan and Newsweek International. His work as a journalist with special emphasis on business and technology has been published in a variety of other major print mediums including the Detroit News, Changing Times Magazine, Auto Week and corporate publications. Over the years, he has provided major corporations and media groups with “deep background” analyses that have helped shape the direction of some of the most significant news stories and industry strategies.
eMOTION! REPORTS.com (http://emotionreports.com http://emotionreportscom.blogspot.com/) is anautomotive/aerospace industries research and analysis site targeting professionals within the academic, media, corporate and government sectors. The site also created a pathway through which white papers and other scholarly works such as "Crisis On Asimov: A Vision of 2085" by national security strategist Dr. Sheila Ronis; "Quantum Parallel: The Saint-Hilaire Quasiturbine as the Basis For Simultaneous Paradigm Shift in Vehicle Propulsion Systems" and "Super-Globalism: Strategies For Maintaining a Robust Industrial Base Through Technological, Policy and Process Improvement" , could be presented to a broadened yet specific audience.